The "18 Aprile" meeting was held, "Albanian Women tell each other" organized by the Albanian Association Scanderbeg of Parma in collaboration with the Albanian school. We were there too to listen and be part of it. Here is the story of our collaborator Sonila Alushi.
The chairs are positioned in a circle and some girls are still rehearsing the play that will open the evening. I'm early (I couldn't wait to get there) and I apologize for this, but they immediately put me at ease.
Ms. Elvira Lashi works with the girls on the right pitch for each word, for every word. She teaches Albanian culture and music in the school of Scanderbeg Parma and is also the creator and heart of this activity. The girls listen to her with a lot of respect. They act and are very excited! I don't immediately understand why!
The room fills up and among us, Albanian men and women, there are many Italian men and women. I express surprise at this fact!
"Without men, everything would be useless" says Elvira. "Making each other aware of the freedom to act, to be, to choose and to live, is fine, but we cannot make big changes alone. Their presence is fundamental, we are complementary not enemies of each other. We want the emancipation of women, but together with that of man. We can and must do this together. "
She is always at the forefront, despite her very intense life divided between family, work and association! A woman of extraordinary strength and energy, mother of two other beautiful and very polite little women, Mrs. Lashi does well in everything she does.
I listen to it with admiration as people form this circle like a round table where the center belongs to everyone.
The evening opens with the moving verses that the poet Elide La Vecchia has written for every woman, for every story told to her.
A very precious contribution that touched us deeply. These are strong experiences that Elide has listened to with great patience, has interiorized and then transformed into verses. Completely in tune with our worlds, with our culture, she has managed to penetrate into souls transforming our feelings and even our pain into musical words. Elide is a woman with an extraordinary soul and a heart full of love. I do not say so, his poems say it, written for us, women of the overseas, close to home and also close to splendor.
Among us there is also an Italian girl with intelligent eyes and the clear smile that I immediately recognize: she is Biancalaura Perlini, the young doctor who concluded her studies with a thesis on "Albanian marriage, history and evolution of the bride figure from Kanun to today" . A magnificent job that I was lucky enough to read and study with such curiosity.
His intervention is of exceptional objectivity! In her rich thesis, she tells important parts of our reality with the delicacy that only those who want to understand can try and use, to grasp not only the raw truth, but also the wonder that every tradition handed down orally contains. To do this, she studied our language, attended our people and traveled to Albania, touching our traditions as fascinating as they are hesitant!
Biancalaura is also studying our dances, understanding that they talk, tell stories, read, unions and separations. But it was not just her who learned us with such candor and love and learned by understanding our culture by breaking down the boundaries.
We too have learned so much from her: without giving a lesson, with her humility and patience, the young Doctor Perlini teaches us that knowing diversity without fear, is an act of love towards others, towards your fellow man. She teaches us that friendship is a process, often painful, that passes through knowledge and empathy and therefore important and precious as much as the commitment you put into it. Biancalaura, a young woman, a little Albanian by now, teaches us that peaceful coexistence is possible only if conscious.
After the screening of a video document where Biancalaura recounts historical facts and the pain of the iamalis people, the evening ends with the surprise prize for Dr. Perlini that Mr. Adem Aliu, representative of the Albanian National Association "çameria", has delivered in gratitude for his contribution to the study and dissemination of Albanian culture.
I was very moved because on the subject of women, and especially Albanian women, I am particularly sensitive and not only as a woman, but also and above all because my roots are in that land which in many ways is still painful. And also because they are nephew, daughter, mother of Albanian women of extraordinary strength and beauty. With beauty I don't mean only the physical one, the one visible to the eyes. With beauty I mean that of values, qualities, sensitivity, energy. That beauty that shines and warms and that all women, especially the Mediterranean ones, possess.
I warmly thank all of you: Elvira, Elide, Biancalaura, Aida, Loreta, Sindi, Debora, Zybere, Alessia for their contributions and for the emotions they gave me. A special thanks to all members of Scanderbeg and the Albanian school of Parma for the wonderful evening. It was an honor to be your guest.
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